To Be A Mother And Baby Means To Experience Absolute Chaos – To Be Parents
After all, when a woman is a mother-baby, she goes through an unstable routine with crying, changes, food intakes and bottles that make her feel in another dimension, she no longer recognizes herself and feels that, in a meaning, she has lost the thread of her own personality.
The role of a mother-baby
While chaos is most noticeable in the postpartum period, our children’s early years often require us to look at the world through babies’ eyes and prioritize based on their needs.
These needs become ours at the same time we feel exhausted, with blurry brains, mixed feelings and great fatigue.
Perhaps the phrase that best defines how a mom and baby feels is “I’m on cloud nine”. In other words, at this moment there is the feeling of being in a parallel world with other rhythms and in which everything seems to be distorted or scrambled between crying, sleepless nights, colic and diapers. .
Emotional support for the mother-baby
In any case, it is essential that each mother allows herself to immerse herself in this dreamlike world which gives rise to breastfeeding, crying, advice and recommendations, schedules and other characteristic aspects of this stage.
To adapt these moments of disconnection with “the real world”, it is advantageous to seek references based on the here and now. An example would be talking with other mothers who are going through the same time.
In this way, we will be able to normalize situations, sensations, experiences and thoughts, because we will realize that they are similar and this will strengthen us. In other words, creating an environment in which what happens to us is not only shared, but also recreated and colored with positive.
In fact, while the chaos at this time is a negative element, sharing it and feeling accompanied in this passage encourages us to positively accept our identity as mother-baby with the upheaval that this entails.
It is normal to feel disturbed and to delve into madness, as the amount of contradictory suggestions, advice and experiences confuses us and leads us to lose hope in the search for the right way to do or be. mom-baby.
Surrounding ourselves with other women who are mothers and babies promotes emotional support, acceptance of our emotions and self-confidence.
Function as a mother-baby
To function as a mother-baby means to oscillate between the link with our adult facet and that of our baby. As is natural, this is what brings us, in a way, to know “what is good” and “what is bad”.
It is important to seek to connect with other moms, as this will help us know what is best for us and how to deal with this time.
It doesn’t matter what advice we receive, because only those that are closely related to the emotional history of each mom-baby will be useful and beneficial. It makes us realize that the only person who knows what is good for us is ourselves. What happens is that a mother-baby doesn’t know that she has all of this inside her.
Understanding that each mother-baby couple has a time and a rhythm will be the best way so that, when the time comes, we can regain that normality that we were so afraid of losing.
