Educating Teenagers: 7 Habits To Avoid – Parenthood

When it comes to educating teenagers , we have to be very careful with our words and actions. Remember that at this stage of their life, young people are in the process of building their character and orienting themselves towards what they want to become.

Therefore, laxity and rigidity should be avoided as much as possible in order for adolescents to behave appropriately.

Even if you don’t want your child to experience any kind of discomfort or pain, both are essential. Why ? Because you won’t always be there to protect and defend them. You will also not always be able to relieve their pain.

Adult life is full of obstacles and adolescents need to be prepared for them. So teach them to defend themselves.

Educating teens: the most common mistakes

1. Make them believe that they are the center of the world

Your kids are definitely the most important thing in your life and it’s good to show them your love. However,  a child who is almost idolized grows up thinking the world revolves around him.

Love them as much as you can and however you like, but  avoid fostering selfishness and the superiority complex. This will help them build stronger self-esteem while keeping their feet on the ground.

2. Thinking that our children are perfect

School counselors and teachers witness that  parents don’t want to listen to anything negative about their children. The reaction of a parent who hears something they did not expect can be like attacking the person in the face. On the contrary, openly receive the opinions of other people around your children.

The best thing you can do for your teens is listen to them before the going gets tough. Young people are still building their identities, so this is a good time to help them correct their behavior.

3. Living through children

Children are not the extension of our dreams and expectations. Indeed, they have their own goals, desires and aspirations. You can celebrate their success without putting pressure on them.

Everything they achieve must take the path of struggle for their happiness and not for your satisfaction.  Adolescents are not a second opportunity for parents. They are autonomous beings who must shape their destiny.

4. Behave like the best friend

One of the big problems in today’s society is that many parents do not behave like one. And are not adept at educating adolescents. The desire to receive love and acceptance from children confuses the role.

Keep in mind that it  is quite normal for your children to get angry with you sometimes and disagree with your choices. Permissiveness should be avoided as much as possible when it comes to educating adolescents in respect.

“Overprotection is very pernicious because it makes citizens dependent and sometimes very tyrannical. Indeed, they grow up thinking that the world revolves around them, that they are the kings of the family and not just another member of the family ”

-Javier Urra-

5. Forget time spent with family

There is nothing more rewarding for a family than the quality time they share together. Even though work schedules, fatigue and household chores make things difficult, you always have to find a solution.

The wonderful thing about your kids being teenagers is how far they’ve come to get there. A father and mother present is the best gift you can give them.

6. Forgetting the importance of a good example

Attitudes speak more clearly than words. Parents have the difficult task of being an example of the behaviors they demand of their children.

If you want your teen to be the best version of themselves, now is the time for you to start being, too. Remember that they are constantly watching you and learning everything you do.

7. Avoid adversity

In order for a child or adolescent to develop character, confidence, resilience and perseverance, they need to overcome their own challenges. Each challenge he meets in his daily life makes him gain in values. The satisfaction of feeling capable and independent will make them a successful and fulfilled adult.

Educating adolescents is a big challenge. While there is no one way to educate teens, avoiding these kinds of mistakes will lead you on a safer path. So accompany young people in one of the most beautiful and difficult stages of their lives.