Grandma, Tell Me Again How You Felt When You Saw Me For The First Time – Being Parents

Today, in “Being parents” , we want to pay tribute to these very special women. We speak in the feminine and we speak of them, of these 2.0 grandmothers who are described as the new generation of “super-women”. Many of them are a far cry from the classic image of the grandmother baking cookies and picking up her grandchildren from school. It’s something new, more modern, interesting …

In the news, we constantly see the emergence of new terms to designate new and fantastic realities. Thus, “Glam-mas” (glamorous grandmother), represent a trend that has arisen in the United States that a fascinating article in “The New York Times” describes. This article explains to us that this part of the population has changed enormously in recent years.

In the rest of our article, we explain all the ideas to you.

There is something that a lot of people can feel when suddenly the first grandchild comes along. They feel that they have just entered the autumn of their life. Am I as old as people say? Does the mere fact that my children have babies of their own mean that I have become an “old person”? Absolutely not .

Enthusiasm … and a pinch of concern

When a 55 or 65 year old woman first sees this fragile, diminished and so precious creature that is part of her heritage and that makes her become a grandmother, the first thing she feels is a feeling of fullness.

• She says thank you. Above all, she thanks that everything went well, that the mother and the child are in good health, and that the delivery went well. Moreover, the wisest grandmothers know well that after the birth of a child, it is important to respect the space and the privacy of the parents. To do this, they understand that the best thing to do is to stay in the background, but to always be attentive, and always available if you need them.
• On the other hand, beyond this satisfaction and the happiness experienced, the woman who becomes a grandmother tends to experience a fresh start from scratch as a person. It is something common. And then begin to appear new concerns.
• She knows that from then on, she will have to take on a specific role. Today’s 2.0 grandmothers have a very active social life. Many of them are still working, and most often have more than one role in their life. They are wives, mothers, friends, they are part of a community …

• It is common that they sometimes have questions. For example, how to delimit each space and each responsibility. They know and understand that their role is not to “raise” or “educate” it. This aspect is already behind them, it is now the parents’ business. Today’s grandmothers want only one thing: to be an emotional support and a lifelong guide, kind and facilitator in the life of the newborn.

The grandmother is part of a generation we need

In an interesting article published in “Psychology Today”, whose title is “Learning to Be a Grandmother” , we are told some very interesting things. First of all, that the mother-daughter relationship improves. Suddenly, the role of “friend-mentor” becomes the most obvious, and it is always beneficial for both of you.

The second detail is that from a social point of view, we need to reinterpret the roles of grandfathers and grandmothers. In many families, and given the current times of crisis, they often serve as both economic and emotional support. In view of this role, it would be good if they were better recognized institutionally.

Learning to be a grandmother first and foremost involves activating an exceptional potential for self-realization and personal development. For this, we sometimes need society to be more attentive and more sensitive to our generations of older people, but incredibly active and vital to our daily lives.

Since I saw you, I only want one thing: to be in your heart

On the other hand, the greatest aspiration of any grandmother is to win the hearts of her grandchildren. She wishes to live forever in a small space inside the children. And she is thirsty to spend as much time as possible with them, but she knows that her life time is more limited than that of her grandchildren.

Thus, one of its duties is to transmit an education which is based on feelings, on recognition. And on the strength of a bond that must forever accompany this child who will become an adult tomorrow. The grandmother will emerge as the best of her models. She will be a person who inspires, who gives good advice, who allows to grow without being sanctioned, to cultivate illusions. A person who is the everyday embrace, the caressing hand, the gift offered in secret and the smile of complicity.

Grandmothers 2.0 no longer represent the classic “third age” . They harbor the tenderness of always but with the maturity, independence and character of the new millennium. And that… it’s incredibly positive for our little ones.