You Were Just A Desire And You Have Come True – Being Parents

Having a child is more than a desire or a dream. Nor is it an accomplishment for every woman. Taking a new person in his arms is a life project. It’s letting your heart beat outside your chest and enjoying every moment with this perfect little creature.

The desire to be a mother is a subject frequently studied by scientists and psychologists. We could just conclude that the desire to be a mother is something intimate and inexplicable what life as a couple looks like after having a child. However, scientists, always keen to isolate the different parameters, claim that three main reasons can be determined.

The first is to consolidate the couple’s bond by creating a common life project. The second is to fulfill oneself as a woman. The third, perhaps the most important, is to give meaning to one’s existence by participating in the most beautiful project that can exist: that of being a mother and father.

We can agree with these three reasons. However, there must also be something else . Indeed, we do not always share our desire to have a child with our spouse. Not everyone is in the same situation.

Sometimes the child arrives without warning and becomes the most beautiful thing that can be expected in life. Having a child is more than a desire. We suggest you think about it in this article.

I had a desire that was long in coming, but you’re finally by my side

There are children who have been long and patiently desired. Creatures seen in dreams that are slow to come, mothers who cannot conceive, fathers who are content to dream of being and families frustrated until… Until the miracle happens and the desire arrives take shape.

Whether they are alone or in a relationship, there are people who want to have children and who wait for the best time. This moment conducive to magic where all the emotional and economic parameters are aligned. Unfortunately, that’s when we sometimes discover that this is not possible, that the tests are always negative and that there are no children. If there are no other solutions, the couple must seek help and resort to modern techniques of assisted reproduction.

We don’t often talk about the emotional lift that mothers and their spouses go through. Stress, dreams, hopes and frustrations can weave a web that is difficult to extricate from and does not facilitate the process. The stronger the desire to be a parent, the more complicated the situation. But happiness is there in most cases.

The imaginary child who lives in us

This magnificent canvas was painted by Herbert James Draper at the end of the 19th century. The painting represents the magical moment when a nymph discovers that her desire to be a mother has come true. The painter himself says that he imagined the young woman walking sadly on the beach when suddenly, on a rocky promontory, she discovers a large shell.

Without thinking, she frees it from the algae covering it. That’s when it opens, revealing a perfect little pink baby, asleep in her mother-of-pearl cradle. The nymph thanks the sea and carries the baby in her arms.

When we dream of motherhood, we always imagine an imaginary child. This habit can be very beneficial, but only if the expecting parents know how to be realistic and logical.

• For example, it is not a question of attributing to this imaginary child extraordinary qualities, such as beauty, intelligence, obedience and an always docile and affectionate temperament.
• The ideal is to imagine yourself happy in the company of this child. Your little one doesn’t have to be a lawyer, pianist or footballer. He will become what he wants. Your imaginary baby must be the one you could have tomorrow. Imagine that you are educating him, helping him to develop, his little hand still in yours and his light illuminating your life.

In conclusion, we can have very different reasons for wanting to be a mom or a dad. Not all of them can be studied and explained in a laboratory. The desire to be a parent is above all the desire to give the world a happy, worthy and free creature, who will have both wings to fly and roots to always know where he comes from.

We start by dreaming about it, then we take advantage of it when the dream becomes reality. Enjoy every moment with your little treasure …